2 Mommies and a Baby
Thursday, July 21, 2005
boring and solipsistic
The article was a review of “Making Grace” – a documentary following a lesbian couple trying to have a baby.
The review was positive, stating the obvious – that the people who would most be affected by it won’t watch it – the homophobes.
It actually sounded cute and I think I am definitely going to try and see it.
The article ended with this paragraph:
Emphasizing sameness over difference, this is the kind of film rarely seen by those likely to benefit most from its universal message. Watching Ann and Leslie gaze at sonograms, attend Lamaze classes and register for a baby shower, homophobes and their ilk would no doubt be comforted to learn that expectant lesbian parents can be as boring and solipsistic as the rest of us.
First, I looked up the word solipsistic…
1. The theory that the self is the only thing that can be known and verified
2. The theory or view that the self is the only reality.
In other words, lesbians, like anyone else on the planet, become self absorbed and only into the baby when pregnant.
We are trying to promise ourselves that it won’t happen to us. We don’t want to only talk about the baby. Right now, it’s the size of a lima bean, not much to discuss there.
It is our goal, basically, to not become boring and solipsistic during this entire ordeal.
I truly hope our friends will tell us when we are becoming solipsistic. Or in some other words.