2 Mommies and a Baby
Monday, August 21, 2006
freaking out about $$
I posted the car in the classifieds starting Wednesday. Hopefully, someone will bite and give us more $$ than the dealer would. We’ll see. We’re not buying the new car until September, so we have time to freak out about spending money.
And we are freaking out about spending money.
Poor Lois woke up at 2 am (I was in dreamland bliss after taking 2 Tylenol PM’s) last night having heart palpitations about the following:
“what we will do for income when she’s not working when the baby’s born”
“Money when she goes back to work at a job making less than she does now”
“paying for day care”
“paying for car property taxes”
“paying the mortgage”
“paying for diapers”
I got frustrated this morning and was like, “then don’t get a new car, hang on to this and keep your fingers crossed” and “do you really think you will want to be home for several months?” and “you could always work from home” and “we could refinance the condo” (it’s still new construction, so we already talked about refinancing when the whole development is done and the rates will be lower).
She’s terrified of debt. I am of the mindset that everyone has debt, ours is pretty good (other than my colossal undergrad and law school loans) and that we don’t have to pay everything off in a year, we can pay minimum payments if things get tight.
What do couples fight about?
Oh yeah, sex and money. And I gave up fighting about sex years ago.
I spoke to a friend this afternoon and was like “I know we will make things work out, we will be okay, but I don’t know how to say that to Lois.”
She was like “you are such the guy, needing to respond. Just let her vent, no need to say anything at all.”
So, I will let her vent. Needless to say, I am freaked out too, but I am more of a one day at a time type person where Lois wants to have the plan for February and March completely water tight and perfect.
Many of these decisions (baby and home) were made when we thought I would be making more money at this point, but things happen. Maybe things will shift the other way, we’ll make it work.
When I look at what we’ve been through in the last 6 ½ years (taking her ex to court for visitation of the twins, Lois losing her job at IP when they went under, going to law school, making $8/hour only 15 hours a week, loans, Lois driving to and from Jersey to visit, being homeless for 7 months, the miscarriage, at least one badly wrecked car, etc.), we can do this. It’s just another challenge that we will conquer.